We’ve made a model letter for you to send to the individuals mentioned in the last post, if you want some guidance. We recommend adding some personal input, however, as template letters become quickly identifiable and can be dismissed.
We’ve also put the choice between ‘implement’ and ‘support’ in the first sentence. This is because, while Lynne Featherstone, Ken Clarke, Theresa May and Keir Starmer can implement the prosecution of rapists, Jo Johnson and Yvette Cooper can only support it.
Let us know if you get any responses!
Dear……..
I am writing to you to implement/support the call to prosecute rapists, not rape survivors. Rape and sexual assault are rarely taken seriously by those in authority. Survivors of rape are made to feel that they cannot report to the police for fear of being penalised themselves, or being disbelieved. [Insert personal view here – personal experiences if relevant]
There are many changes that need to be made in order to improve the rape conviction rate and change people’s attitudes to victims. You have the power to make these changes. I urge you to ensure that:
- Accusations of rape and sexual assault are taken seriously by police and courts and victims respected
- Victim blaming which focuses on the survivor’s clothing, profession, sexuality, race, ability, age, sexual history comes to an end
In particular, the police and Crown Prosecution Service should focus on prosecuting rapists and stop prosecuting rape victims for so-called false allegations. Sex workers who are working together in safety should also not be prosecuted – the CPS has the power to decide that such prosecutions are not in the public interest.
If officers and prosecutors are not sacked for their negligent treatment of rape and sexual assault, they are led to believe that it is acceptable behaviour. The power remains in the hands of those who do not respect the very people they are meant to be protecting.I urge you to address this problem, as it affects everyone. To refuse to do so is to enable rape-apologism and victim-blaming and leaves violent attackers free to attack again.
I look forward to hearing from you,
Yours sincerely,
Many of the women who spoke at Slutwalk London are based in the Crossroads Women’s centre. They’re having a fundraiser evening on Friday, 24 June.
Event: Cabaret with Magic & Burlesque
Time: Doors open 7.30pm, show begins 8pm
Place: 25 Wolsey Mews, Kentish Town (off Caversham Rd), London, NW5 2DX
Tickets: £10/£5 concessions
Performers include: Colin Francome - comedy songs, juggling, magic
Mandy Davis - the Diva of Deception; Chris Hare - Mindboggler
Miss Bruise Violet - Burlesque; Freedom - magician; Lisa - Tango or Die
Access: Level access to ground floor/Wheelchair accessible loo nearby
~All Welcome~
Contact: 020 7482 2496, www.crossroadswomen.net
At three-something-ish on Saturday afternoon, I was in Trafalgar Square, chatting to the speakers from the ECP, looking round to say hi to Laurie Penny, and generally having a good time. As I chatted, I realised, to my dismay, that Roz Kaveney, who had been due to provide a message of support and solidarity from the trans community, was unwell and couldn’t make it.
That felt wrong: we, too, are abused; we, too, suffer. And many of us (I could never claim to speak for ALL) are strong supporters of the principles of slutwalk
Five minutes later, I’d checked in with “trans central” (other trans activists who had gone on the march) who felt much the same way and not much more than five minutes after that I was up on the podium, trembling like a leaf - more with the emotion of it, to be honest, than nervous - and giving a very short message of support.
There were two things I said that I’d like to say in slightly more detail here.
First, is that we – trans women – are sisters too
(And no: I am not discounting the violence and abuse that others in the trans community endure: gay-bashing, homophobia, transphobia all seem, at times, to merge into one amorphous mush, increasingly taking in those who would identify as “other” and gender queer. At the end of the day, such fine distinctions make little odds to a violent assailant: and you certainly don’t much care whether you’re being hit because they think you’re gay or trans or whatever. But when it comes to public speaking, I prefer to speak as I identify).
We suffer violence and abuse and the results of that violence can be seen in the horrendous statistics reported by the trans community. One third of us regularly suffer harassment in public: one in ten are threatened; one in sixteen have been assaulted – sheer random violence - for no reason other than that we were out walking.
You learn many things as you transition. In colloquial terms, many of us learn to “feminise” (whatever that means). You also learn, very fast, about survival: about how the streets are no longer a safe place to be. My own personal experience (and I’m a pretty boring middle-aged woman!) is of a life with zero harassment and abuse replaced by one in which I have been threatened with serious violence approximately once every two months.
You learn to be careful, in much the way that those brought up as women learn very early, too.
Its not a competition. I was both appalled and enthralled to hear the experiences of different groups of women on Saturday. How a single social disease – violence and disrespect for women – makes itself manifest in a range of different ways according to class, colour, sexuality, occupation – and clothes. Some of what we endure is similar to that which other women suffer.
One quite vile practice, though, seems mostly targeted at trans women: it is the bizarre obsession that the rest of the world has with our genitals. And whilst I am more than happy to have the rudest, most explicit conversations in the world with friends, the idea that a near-stranger thinks it appropriate to just ask – out of the blue – whether someone is pre- or post-op is revolting. On a par, I’d guess, with asking someone on first meeting whether she has had a hysterectomy.
That said, I’ve had the verbal obsession: I’ve yet to suffer the indignity of the guys who.. . well, who decide to take matters into their own hands and CHECK genital status by just diving between a trans woman’s legs and having a feel. Ugh!
There was a second thing I said on Saturday, and this was also part apology, on behalf of blokes. Because although I never felt especially male, I socialised, for a while, as one. And I am well aware of how blokes often see the issue of rape and violence on the street.
Its about statistics. Incidents. Events that one can count and measure and compare and contrast. Which it is. But none of that even begins to get beneath the surface of lived experience. Or to register that for most blokes, assault is just something that happens: a one-off that, unless they are especially belligerent or regularly seek out confrontation, will not happen all that often.
So what they don’t get – what I didn’t get before – is how different it feels when every walk down a street is accompanied, ever so slightly, by the need to measure risk: when late night walks call for double the caution; and when some places, some times are just no longer safe at all.
That, I fear, is the difference that most blokes don’t get: that violence is both state of mind and, if we are not careful, a prison. Its not just about crime stats.
- by Jane Fae, Speaker at Slutwalk London
What a brilliant day and what a brilliant crowd you all were! It’s a shame that much of the press has forgotten totally to mention the message - you would think that they WANT to keep rape mythology alive and kicking.
We really need YOUR help on this one.
We need as many of you as possible to comment and lodge complaints about reporting standards and the fact that NO mention was made about the wide spectrum of speeches – actually that there were any at all! Just this relentless reference to attire. That is plain hackery - not journalism. The fact that many of the “writers” are women of privilege, presenting a narrow viewpoint over the needs of other women, is particularly saddening.
For the record, The Times spent over an hour at Crossroads Women’s Centre delaying an important meeting by pretending to be interested in the wider issues (which they barely touched on).
Here are a selection to read (but please be careful – I’ve nearly bust several blood-vessels reading these)
We don’t expect you to pay for the Sunday Times to read their vile piece, so see it here: http://tinyurl.com/sundaytimes11June
Yasmin Alibhai-Brown from The Independent
And to brighten this up, support from an unexpected quarter:
The Christian Science Monitor: A Dress is Not a Yes
These negative reporters need to be reminded that they are part of the problem. They are helping to reinforce attitudes which lead to our woeful conviction rates and in doing so are helping rapists go free.
Write to the Sunday Times here:
[email protected]
And Yasmin Alibhai-Brown here:
[email protected]
<3 Slutidarity to you all! <3